Hello queens! So a lot has been going on for us in the past week and I’m afraid I’ve been preoccupied with work and haven’t been writing much. But here’s a recap
Gay marriage in NYC! Who knew? The marriage issue is a big one. Not only are the rights important for visiting sick partners, wills, and health insurance but I think it also helps gay people in NY feel safer. Now the real questions is, are we safer?
I bring up the safety issue as it’s a big one for me. I would like to get other people’s thoughts on this too. For me, the biggest problem I face as a gay man is the fear that if I hold my man’s hand, I will get gay bashed. One the one hand, I’ve been afraid of this my whole gay life so it’s kind of the norm for me. On the other hand, I’m adult man who is in love and shares my life with another man. We sleep together every night. We fold laundry, go out to eat, fight, have sex, watch movies, basically lots and lots of regular stuff. Therefore the thought that I could get beaten and maybe killed because I hold his hand on the way to dinner seems insane.
I’ve been following today’s coverage on the Marriage Equality bill in the NY Senate. Last I checked we needed on more Republican to wake up and realize, like Ms Uma sayz, that Marriage is a conservative value. One of the main reasons that straight people still don’t seem to be able to think coherently about us gays is that we are still so invisible to them. They either see the random gay couple holding hands in public if they’re in NYC or SF. or maybe the chance upon us on TV, the movies, or if they accidentally watch some gay porn. That is why it is essential to be as open and honest with everyone you meet about your sexual orientation. It helps you too as it strips away the shame and negativity that has been brainwashed into us by straight society. Be Fearless!